Anyone wanting to lose weight can’t imagine sabotaging their own weight-loss success but that is exactly what so many dieters do time, and time again.
Most dieters understand if losing weight were only a matter of balancing calories in versus calories out, or cutting down on eating while exercising more, then everyone would simply achieve their natural weight, and stay there forever.
This is clearly not the case for many people who struggle with food, and weight issues for most of their lives. The simplification that people are overweight because they have no willpower, or are greedy ignores the subconscious reasons that compel many people to overeat.
All those past unsuccessful attempts at getting fitter, and losing weight may well have failed simply because your subconscious mind didn’t want you to lose weight, and conspired against your best efforts to make sure you were ultimately unsuccessful?
If that sounds unlikely there is an easy way to find out if this is true for you. In my therapy work, I specialise in working with clients to help them resolve and release their issues around emotional eating. The goal is so that people who have struggled with yo-yo dieting for many years can finally successfully lose weight, and maintain their goal weight too.
Along with my colleague Liz Hogon we wrote 7 Simple Steps to Stop Emotional Eating (Hammersmith Books). One of the therapy tools featured in the book is called The Dream Come True (DCT) protocol. The protocol is designed to reveal hidden conflicts that can be stumbling blocks to achieving what you want in your life.
We have found this protocol is highly effective in successfully discovering unexplored conflict or any deeply felt unease you may have around successfully losing weight that can lead to self-sabotaging behaviour, and to the inevitable yo-yo dieting.
It’s a tool of discovery that helps reveal blocks and resistance to weight loss by highlighting any areas of conflict around being potentially slim, and attractive.
Here is how to do this for yourself.
Compose a few simple statements written in the first person that represents your Dream Come True (DTC) about your dream weight, and/or size you want to be.
You need to write your statement as if you have achieved your weight loss goal now, in the present tense.
Your Dream Come True (DTC) statement will read similar to this:
“I feel wonderful at my goal weight of .......... (Fill in the blank).”
“I feel great now I am a size 10.” (Substitute your goal size here)
“I love weighing 140 pounds.” (Substitute your weight goal here)
You can elaborate further on your statements by adding more details so that the DCT statement you have written it is the most powerful intention you can set.
It's important to add in emotions about how you’ll feel at your desired weight.
Once you've done that you can add in more benefits you will have from this achievement.
The completed DCT protocol may read similar to this.
“I love weighing 120 pounds. I feel fabulous in my size 8 jeans. I can walk for hours and even run around after the kids! Life is good, and I feel so proud of myself for achieving my weight loss goal.”
Continue to hone and fine-tune your DCT statement to make it as compelling as it can be.
Next you need to score your belief in your statement. Zero represents ‘I don’t believe I can achieve this at all’, and a score of ten signifies, ‘I truly believe I can do this’.
Your initial score may only be a low number of four, or five, however, don’t be disheartened. What you have done is you have highlighted the inconsistency between your intention and the belief system that is preventing you from achieving your dream come true.
Make a note of any doubts or negative feelings your DCT statement brings up for you, and see them for the BS thoughts they really are. You can work on dispelling these negative feelings yourself and having awareness of them is an important step forward in removing the stumbling blocks to your weight loss success.
If you find your negative beliefs are firmly entrenched and you are at a loss to erase your negative thinking on your own then it would be a good idea to find a therapist who specialises in resolving issues around emotional eating.
The aim with your Dream come True protocol is to be fully aligned emotionally with your goal so that the score you are working with is a ten signifying that there is no inconsistency between your intention and your belief system.
It is vital to clear any stumbling blocks you may have to allow you to achieve your weight loss goal. Without achieving this it is unlikely your sub-conscious mind will let you be successful. It is only when you have cleared your stumbling blocks by transforming your negative beliefs so that your DCT score is a ten signifying you truly believe you can achieve this for yourself.
Make contact if you feel your negative beliefs are too entrenched for you to successfully erase on your own. You can schedule an obligation free chat by clicking on the button at the top of the page.
If you want to lead a happier more fulfilled life it’s almost impossible when you’re doubting yourself or sabotaging your chances of success. Therapy isn’t for everyone, but if you’ve ‘tried everything’ it could be just what you need. You can book an obligation-free 30-minute discovery call to find out for yourself.